How do I honour parents who are difficult or not believers?

God's command to honour your parents has no expiry date and no “only if they deserve it” clause. Honour is not the same as agreement or blind obedience; it means treating them with respect, gratitude, and care because of the position God gave them, even when they are hard to love. Honouring difficult parents may mean setting wise, respectful boundaries — honour does not require enabling abuse or sin. As an adult, you obey God first, but you can still speak gently, refuse to repay evil with evil, and look for concrete ways to show care. With unbelieving parents, your steady love and changed life may preach louder than any words. Pray for them patiently, honour them genuinely, and trust God with the timing of their hearts. Scripture: Ephesians 6:2 — “Honour thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise.” Take this step: Do one specific, tangible act of honour this week — a call, a thank-you, a practical help — regardless of whether it is reciprocated.